Hurdling the Haters

I had fully intended for quite some time to write an article on how to deal with haters while pursuing your dream. Although I had assumed my race was totally different from yours and that I myself had reached a magical place of fulfillment in which no negative comments could harm me, and out of that I would teach others how to do the same. And then out of the […]

 

On Insecurity and Identity

During the final week of October, I decided that I needed to commit to some self-care.  I had been feeling anxious and upset for most of the month without really knowing why.  I’d wake up in the morning feeling fine and happy, but most nights I went to bed feeling insecure and sad.  So near the end of the month, I brainstormed ways to try to cope: spending more time […]

 

Great Not Better

If there’s one thing we’re good at it’s this: comparing. Whether we like it or not, we make comparisons each and every day. Some comparisons are more innocent than others. You are going to have to decide which coat to wear depending on what the bipolar weather will be that day- Ohioans, you know what I mean. You are also going to have to compare your options when eating out […]

 

Beauty in the Beholder

Everything in creation has a name. Everything created serves a purpose. Even weeds. In fact, by the very definition, a weed is simply a  plant in an undesired place. I have a growing affinity for these so-called mislocated plants. When I venture down a road and take in that which lines my path- white Queen Anne’s Lace and blue Bachelor’s Buttons, or behold a field strewn in the rich hue […]

 

The Mirror Struggle

Are you happy with the way you look? Do you often feel unsatisfied and continually spend money, time, energy, go on crash diets, spend your rent on a new purse, all the while scraping up money to get your hair done to portray an image? Maybe you walk into a room and no matter what you have on or how you look—you have this sinking feeling like you aren’t good […]

 

The Sisterhood

I really like to be liked. It may seem like something of a ridiculous or sell-out statement, but the truth is we can all identify with this. Not many would opt for isolation over friendship. In fact, there is something in the heart of every one of us that desires so badly to be liked, accepted, and desired that we often find ourselves conforming according to our surroundings… or perhaps […]

 

Fishing for Security

Turning this way and that in the dressing-room mirror, I let out a long sigh. This outfit did not look as good on me as it had in the catalogue.  Or on the headless mannequin. I bit my lip. A tell-tale sign I was becoming distressed. Next my fingernails would fly up into my mouth and I would undo all the progress I had made trying to grow them out. […]

 

Because You Exist

When we survey our culture and surroundings it doesn’t take long to realize why so many of us struggle with our identity and value in this world. Television, popularity symbols, movies, and even just going to the supermarket or shopping mall screams at us to improve ourselves, to buy more, to be more. We have mistakenly, and perhaps even unconsciously, placed more worth on the thing than on the person. […]

 

Confronting the Doormat

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I talk a really big game. I can get worked up with the best of them about what I would do, or say, given the chance to speak my mind. THEN they’d be in BIG trouble. Truth is, instinctively confrontation scares the living daylights out of me. I’m all talk and about .01% follow-through. And on the rare occasion I have been pushed […]

 

An Original

I have a knack for making awkward situations more awkward. Not in a cool trendy, “hey, I’m a total rebel and I’m doing this on purpose because I do what I want” kind of way though. It’s more like “hey, I’m socially awkward and am hoping you will misinterpret it as unconventional quirkiness… And then think I’m cool.” But that’s just me. Through junior high and high school I swung […]