The Sisterhood

I really like to be liked. It may seem like something of a ridiculous or sell-out statement, but the truth is we can all identify with this. Not many would opt for isolation over friendship. In fact, there is something in the heart of every one of us that desires so badly to be liked, accepted, and desired that we often find ourselves conforming according to our surroundings… or perhaps […]


Gone Huntin'

Boy meets girl. Boy thinks girl is pretty cute. Boy and girl hang out once. Boy and girl discover that both are Christians. Girl goes home and decides boy could be soul mate….because boy loves Jesus. And boy is kind of hot and has nice teeth. And to girl’s knowledge, boy has never committed a major felony or dated his own cousin. And so the title “future husband” is given […]


Deeper Friendships

Distinctions are important.  I’m finding that truth is the difference between mere affection and sincere love.  I have felt affectionate and have admired many people in my life, but our brief encounters do not allow for deep truths to be reckoned with.  Relationships which remain on the surface level are “phoney” (to borrow Holden Caulfield’s favorite adjective) relationships, in a sense.  They never get past the outer facade we display to the […]


Fishing for Security

Turning this way and that in the dressing-room mirror, I let out a long sigh. This outfit did not look as good on me as it had in the catalogue.  Or on the headless mannequin. I bit my lip. A tell-tale sign I was becoming distressed. Next my fingernails would fly up into my mouth and I would undo all the progress I had made trying to grow them out. […]


Nothing Casual About Love

I love ice cream. Seriously, I do. You know what else I love? Chocolate. Almost as much as I love my high-heeled peep-toe Oxford pumps. I love the smell of wet pavement in the summer. I love sweatpants. I also love watching The Office. I love my friends. I love lamp. I love my parents. I love Jesus. …Ahem. After reading back through my list, I can’t help but feel […]


Confronting the Doormat

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I talk a really big game. I can get worked up with the best of them about what I would do, or say, given the chance to speak my mind. THEN they’d be in BIG trouble. Truth is, instinctively confrontation scares the living daylights out of me. I’m all talk and about .01% follow-through. And on the rare occasion I have been pushed […]


Not Okay

There seems to be a rumor going around that it’s not okay to be not okay.  That it’s not okay to need help, to feel to the extreme, or even to not know what to do. Somewhere along the line we have believed that in order to be worth the approval and envy of our peers that we must have it 100% together 100% percent of the time. Which is […]


A Single Disorder

For more years than I care to admit, I jumped from one relationship to the (often unstable) next relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I had morals and standards, but I just really didn’t like being by myself. It was boredom…or so I told myself. Although in the moment I tried not to analyze what was driving this need within me. In hindsight I realize it was a whole lot more […]