So, You're Not a Virgin...

As I dove deep into the world of Christian writers and speakers over the past few years, it became painfully obvious that there exists a divide between sons and daughters of Christ over issues like sexuality, modesty, and the holy v-word — Virginity. At 27 years old, I still turn red and tear up when I hear someone on a stage denounce the loss of virginity and praise purity.  Don’t […]

 

Valentine's Day

I opened the door, expecting flowers, chocolate…something. As the cold air hit me in the face, I took him in, quickly doing a mental inventory of the fact that he actually had nothing in his hands. But…it’s Valentine’s Day…he wouldn’t have not brought anything right? It was probably in his car. After a mediocre dinner and a drug store card that had been sitting on the front seat, I felt […]

 

The Criticism of Men

There’s a fierce battle raging over masculinity. These days, the arrows come from every direction. Flip through the channels and you’ll see the emasculation of men on a plethora of TV commercials or sitcom-style shows. In the sitcom King of Queens, Doug, the over-weight dad, is sleeping while his personal trainer plays video games in the garage. His wife Carrie walks in, crosses her arms, and shouts, “What the hell is […]

 

Originality is Magnetic.

Contrary to the popular message in American culture, you cannot be anyone you want to be. A whole generation of boys were raised on a message “be like Mike” (Michael Jordan), while a generation of girls were raised on “be like Britney.” Some of us need to accept that we’ll never be a famous super model, a celebrity pop star, or even a pro-athlete. But you can become a much […]

 

Where Grief Meets Grace

Relationships are messy. Our interactions with people are flawed because we are flawed. Maybe our intentions are good, but as we live and breathe in the friction of the Already-But-Not-Yet—of a Kingdom that is somehow here but also on its way—we are reminded that our own brokenness is not too far behind. And it’s hard. And it hurts. This year two of my closest friendships ended within a matter of […]

 

Committing to Friendship

“Yeah, maybe. Can I let you know?” Her eyes didn’t raise from her phone as she spoke. I had barely finished inviting a girlfriend to dinner when she responded with the dreaded, “That sounds perfectly great but I don’t want to commit without knowing for sure that nothing better will come along.” Later that day, I called another friend to confirm plans to stay with her during a visit, only […]

 

Meeting the One

You are at a unique moment in history. If you’re a millennial, you are quite literally the first generation that has access to the entire world. With social media, online dating, and big cities, the options for meeting a potential spouse is practically infinite. Compare this to the last few thousands years when you were mostly limited to marrying one of a few people in your small village or town. […]

 

Rebirth

How does one sum up an entire year? 365 days. Or close to it. Sometimes you can’t. Sometimes you must let what was…just be. You must turn the page, and step into what is now here. Embracing, what is before you and learning from what is behind you. That’s where I’m at. For those of you who are new to the She Has Worth page, welcome! For those who have […]

 

Behind the Smile

“Hey! How are you?” “I’m good! And yourself?” We speak these words most of the time without even really thinking. It’s become a standard greeting, almost as second nature as breathing. I’ve noticed though, that very rarely do we ever take the time to listen, REALLY listen, to what is on the other side of the greeting. Well, what do you mean? They said they were good. I said I […]

 

Fixing Me

For years I thought that after finding “the one” I would automatically have less than “one” problem. Or at least my problems would be significantly less important. Probably my biggest problem would be trying to decide where we should go on our fabulous honeymoon or if I wanted paper or plastic bags at the grocery store. I’m not here to burst your romantic dream, because truthfully finding the one God […]