Riiiiiiiiiiiiip!” the clear packaging tape was forced from the dispenser.

I finagled with the metal teeth, trying to get the tape to tear without mangling it into a wad. For the number of times I’ve moved  since high school, you’d think I’d have the hang of one of these things by now.

I toted several boxes and a duffle bag down a few flights of stairs, peering over the top box in hopes that I could see in order to navigate my steps. Trying to see the entire stairwell was a futile effort and therefore it was slow-moving. But at least I could see the very next step and therefore I was far less likely to fall on my face.

After man-handling the boxes into the back seat of my car, I wiped a few rogue strands of hair, damp with sweat, off of my forehead. As I adjusted the rearview mirror I began to think about how life can often take you by surprise.

I’ve moved roughly five times since graduating high school seven years ago. Some of those moves were anticipated, some were not. But I must admit, life is unexpected and the way you plan years and events in your imagination do not often transfer, like a mirror image, into reality.

Honestly, most of the time I have no idea what I’m doing.

Sure, moment to moment maybe I know, and I have overarching long-term goals like everyone else…but I am often a little fuzzy on how the details will play out.

And this…this stresses me out.  I like to have plans. I like to have six different calendars and weekly planners complete with color-coordinated highlighters.

But that isn’t life. We don’t get to know all of the details.

And yet…that is a fact that is not supposed to be a stressor. And sometimes the truth that I’m not supposed to stress just stresses me out more. I get stressed about not being stressed.

Today is the last day of 2013. A new year is literally hours away, and in some parts of the world it is already here. Beginnings and endings in life are inevitable. We cannot avoid change. We cannot bypass moving, or perhaps more surprisingly, staying.

However, I have begun to realize that I can avoid the stress associated with trying to navigate the entire stairwell versus the one step I am on currently. And it’s through prayer.


It sounds like the most obvious and “over-used” advice. However, it is also the most underutilized.  Which is really, really stupid when you think about it.

We have a direct connection with the Creator of ALL things. We have an open communication line with the God who hung stars in the sky, created the intricacies of the human body, and planted desires deep in the heart of each man and woman. We don’t get to know the details of our future, but we get to know the One who does. We get to pick His brain and talk to Him about what we are currently experiencing, worrying, hoping, hurting…

It seems so obvious. So why don’t we? Why don’t I?

Prayer does not have to be an intricate, formal speech. Prayer is the unashamed, unabashed sharing of your heart with the One who loves you more than anyone else ever could. And we can do it anytime, all the time, about all things.

I’ve begun to realize that maybe I don’t know because I’m not asking. Maybe I’m stressed because I’m trying to take the whole flight of steps at once instead of praying about the one I’m on.

So in 2014, I don’t want to make a list of goals, resolutions, and mandates that I am going to stress over. Of course, goals are great. But not when they don’t come from a source of prayer. We can pray about anything and everything. We should pray about anything and everything.

And honestly…it’s not just our lives that suffer when there is a lack of prayer. It’s the lives of those around us as well. Prayer is our connection to heaven, it’s our connection to God…and when we aren’t leaving it open…we miss it.

We miss the girl at the cash register that needs a smile. We miss the job opportunity in another state we didn’t apply for. We miss the friend we were supposed to invite with us to church. We miss the cup of coffee we were supposed to buy for someone. We miss the adventure. We miss so much.

In 2014, I don’t want to miss anything anymore. I’ve missed too much in the passing years of my life because I have been too focused on figuring out how I was going to make MY plan work instead of asking God how I can follow His plan. He wants me to be happy, but happiness is fleeting.  Joy is the essence of spending time with Him. My adventures, my life experiences, will be richer and more fulfilling…because they will be with Him. I won’t have to doubt my path because I will be walking it with Him.

Prayer is the only way the change I want to see in my own life can happen. And honestly, prayer is the only way that world change will ever happen.


Do not worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

Coleen York

Coleen York is the founder and editor of She Has Worth. She works as a freelance copywriter and editor, so feel free to hire her so she has employment. Additionally, she enjoys being outside, traveling, dinosaurs, art, Oreos, slurpees, and coffee (but not all together, that would probably be gross). Read more about Coleen in the "Our Team" section of She Has Worth.

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