Most of us are somewhat incapable of being alone. Even if you are alone, you’re not really alone. I have no idea when the obsession with my phone began but it was probably as soon as I got one in the 9th grade. Even if I’m sitting in my bedroom solo, texting no one, I feel a compulsion to look at it every five minutes. I check Instagram. I scroll through Facebook. I tweet something I find to be hilarious but no one else does judging by the lack of retweets. I text a friend some ridiculous picture I found on Pinterest. Or, I call my mom for the 4th time today because I have to feel like I’m connected to someone.

Being connected isn’t a bad thing, and obviously I’m not anti-social media at all. However, I have begun to wonder if these constant connections have left us with a fear of being alone and a need for continuous approval from our peers.

Went to the beach today? Posted it on instagram! 80 likes!? Clearly the beach was a good choice.  Read my Bible? Gonna tweet about it! 37 retweets!? Iron sharpens iron, we are encouraging one another to read our Bibles! So sick!

Before everyone hauls off and calls me a hypocrite or gets mad and stops reading, I’m not saying these things are bad or that you shouldn’t post great Bible verses and encourage one another. The question I am trying to pose is: do you have the ability to unplug?

Throughout the New Testament Jesus is habitually escaping from the crowd, from the noise, or rising early to be alone. He didn’t take His iPhone or His laptop. He left the roar of it all so that He could commune with His Father and hear HIS voice.

Even when I am having my quiet time my phone is almost always nearby (when is it not?). Usually with the ringer on. And sometimes without even realizing it I’ve picked it up and checked it in between verses.  You do not need your cell phone, laptop, or your best friend in order to hear from God.

In fact, you will hear God much better without all of those things vying for your attention or spouting their own opinions. It is in solitude that we can hear Him best, and it is in solitude that God usually reveals Himself most clearly to us.

Moses was alone when God appeared to him in the burning bush and again on Mount Sinai.  Jacob was alone in a field when he wrestled with God. Elijah walked alone with God.  David talked and cried out to God in caves. Alone. Samuel heard God’s voice for the first time when he was lying alone in his bed. Mary and Joseph were both alone when the angel respectively told them about Jesus.

Can God speak to you using anything with anyone around? Of course He can. But how often are we listening for Him during those times? How often are we paying more attention to His opinions or approval versus our friends, families, and the rest of the internet? How often do we quiet our own voices and lives to truly seek Him, alone and distraction free? How often do we show Him that HE is what is most important by unplugging it all?

This weekend I had the opportunity to have some much needed alone time with God. I drove out to the middle of nowhere, sat on a bench made of a bunch of rocks and listened for Him. I talked to Him. I sang (albeit off-key, and at this point very thankfully alone) to Him. I’m not bragging or trying to be holier-than-thou. I did this because sometimes in life you have to take drastic measures to get outside yourself and your own head. I had to take that step. I needed to hear from HIM, not from my phone, my friends, or my family.

When you’re dating someone, or even just having a coffee date with a friend, isn’t it nice for some one-on-one time? Don’t you even ignore your phone during those special few hours? Jesus is the lover of your soul. Don’t neglect to give Him your time and undivided attention. Don’t let anything get in the way of the time you spend with your Saviour. Be THERE with Him. He is so patiently waiting for you to quiet yourself (and everything around you) and meet with Him. Show Him that HE is more important than anyone else. Show Him that it’s HIS opinion that matters most to you, HIS approval.

Let Him lavish His love upon you and heal you during those quiet moments. Bask in His presence and let all the other worries, concerns, and voices fade away.

Meet with Him in solitude. Let your solitude be an act of sacrifice and praise.

Are you ready to unplug?


-Coleen York


Job 6:24 Teach me, and I will be quiet; show me where I have been wrong.

Psalm 37:7- Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for Him.

Matthew 6:6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Matthew 14:23 After Jesus had dismissed them, He went up on a mountainside by Himself to pray. When evening came, He was there alone.

Luke 5:15-16 Yet the news about Him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear Him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

John 3:30- He must increase, but I must decrease.

Coleen York

Coleen York is the founder and editor of She Has Worth. She works as a freelance copywriter and editor, so feel free to hire her so she has employment. Additionally, she enjoys being outside, traveling, dinosaurs, art, Oreos, slurpees, and coffee (but not all together, that would probably be gross). Read more about Coleen in the "Our Team" section of She Has Worth.

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