Are you happy with the way you look? Do you often feel unsatisfied and continually spend money, time, energy, go on crash diets, spend your rent on a new purse, all the while scraping up money to get your hair done to portray an image? Maybe you walk into a room and no matter what you have on or how you look—you have this sinking feeling like you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, tall enough, small enough, and you sure don’t make as much money as others. You even feel stupid going into certain stores because one shirt is the cost of your rent. You constantly beat yourself down, from head to toe, and rip yourself apart as you compare yourself to everyone else around you.
Did you know that ALL of those thoughts are being used to distract you from the WILL of God for your life? They destroy your confidence. If you don’t believe that you are “good” enough, you most likely won’t believe that God can really USE you. You’ll get stuck in this circle of inferiority for the rest of your life and remain insecure.
WHO told you those lies?! Was it People magazine? TMZ? Real Housewives of Beverly Hills? Seems like innocent entertainment, right? Well—it’s not. Those unhealthy television shows and magazines only sow discontentment into your heart. It makes you wish your guy made a little more money while you secretly idolize celebrities in your heart. You wish you had their lives. But Jesus Christ saved you and He is constantly tugging on your heart to stop comparing yourself to others. This is why He tells yous to “guard your heart—for out of it flows the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). If you want to really be free, you have a part to play. Your part is to stop picking up those magazines, turning on those shows and place a guard around your heart. Practice this protection.
Did you know that God NEVER uses one’s outward physical appearance to determine their beauty? When the prophet Samuel examined Jesse’s sons in search of the next king of Israel, he was impressed with Eliab’s appearance. God told Samuel: “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things you are looking at. You look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). Nothing in a person’s outward appearance impresses God. God is constantly checking out what’s going on inside your HEART.
And to make this relevant, did you know that the holy women of old made themselves beautiful by trusting God and accepting the authority of their husbands (1 Peter 3:5). And that’s free. You’ll pay a cost to learn to trust God and submit to your husband… but that now means that you can get out of credit card debt and focus on what’s really important.
Who are you to criticize the way you look or talk about anybody else? On the last day of creation, God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness” (Genesis 1:26). If you are made in the image of God Almighty, He didn’t make any mistakes. God is not surprised by your hips, lips, eyes, face or any part of your body. God made you to look the way you do for a purpose. You are beautifully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14). Your talents, gifts, and everything on the inside of you are NOT by mistake. God placed those desires within you and attached your personality to complete His purposes. So stop trying be like everyone else. BE YOU. There’s no person on this earth like YOU.
But God gave us the freedom to choose–meaning, He’s not going to force you to do anything.
We have a daily choice to live for Him, cast out stupid thoughts, and use wisdom with spending. We get to choose to be content with OUR portion and to trust His perfect timing concerning every area of our lives! If you have to run in circles to keep up with the Joneses or to impress people, they’re not FOR you. In Christ, we don’t have to kiss anybody’s butt. In Christ, we can be free to be WHO God created US to be without false pretense. In Christ, we can be honest about where we are. In Christ, we can recognize that our appearance, possessions and “status” will all fade. In Christ, we recognize that our value comes from HIM alone and what He did on the cross. In Christ, we seek to conform to His image and not someone else’s. So, don’t get wrapped up in this crazy world. Keep your eyes on Christ. He loves you like crazy.